Im Sorry To Say

I have turned against the media. Not a full turn away from it, but in this moment, I no longer view it like the idol I once did. I say this because of the current events in the news. The saddening events. The news of Rihanna and how her life has been put on display for all of us to judge and scold as we see fit. Excuse me while I step off my own pedestal, because I am no one to judge anyone, if for no other reason than I am not perfect myself. Yet, because of her status as a 'pop princess' and 'fashion icon', the title of 'domestic victim' has also been stamped on her forehead more prominently that her own name. And by no fault of her own - no one truly knows what happened that night in Chris Browns rented silver Lamborghini, but the marks and bruises evident on her early February face say enough. Assaulted, victimized, beaten and manhandled all come into play when her picture was splashed onto TMZ's infamous website. I myself gasped; horribly amazed at the damage he did to the woman he has claimed was his girlfriend for over a year. Regardless of exactly what happened to have put both of them in the disappointing situation of violence and public scorn, she, it appears, is now the only bad guy. Yes, he did wrong. Yes, he obviously hurt her. But how awful of her to take him back. What a bad example of a woman to take a beater back into her life. Ugh she must not have learned. Really?! Is that what we do to victims? We suddenly make them the criminal and allow the true culprit, Brown, to escape the backlash he has brought upon himself? Understandably, I sympathize with Rihanna and absolutely wish her the very best under the circumstances and with everything she pursues; I believe this is also the intent of the public at large. Still, there are those who disguise their 'goodwill' under judgemental pretenses. Perhaps Rihanna should consider what truly occurred that night, assuming what it looks like happened actually happened, and let some time help heal her heart. Perhaps she should seek another outlet to give her space from her once-upon-a-time ex. Perhaps she could even let him suffer the physical consequences he has caused, and then some, and decided, based on his behavior and maturity, if he has grown and deserves her back. Perhaps. But this is her life...shes just living her life...and I personally wish people would just give her the space to do so. Thousands of abused women return to their alleged or convicted attackers, for various reasons, and while it hurts to see it happen, they never have thousands of perfect strangers telling them its wrong. Telling them they made a mistake. Telling them they must not have learned.How hurtful to someone who's already been hurt enough.